I take myself on dates. I go to the movies alone. I wander museums alone. I eat meals alone (and yes, that means I resist all temptation to scroll through Instagram while waiting for my meal). I sit in coffee shops and journal alone. I take the train and go to new towns and walk around alone.
我跟自己去約會(huì)：我獨(dú)自看電影，獨(dú)自在博物館閑逛，獨(dú)自吃飯（是的，這是說在等待飯菜上來時(shí)，我抵制住所有刷Instagram的誘惑）。我坐在咖啡館里，獨(dú)自寫著日志。我一個(gè)人乘火車，前往新的城鎮(zhèn)，然后獨(dú)自在那里四處走走玩玩。
I realize this may sound super dorky. You're probably thinking that I must be pretty weird and very lonely. Interestingly enough, I was way more lonely before I started spending time alone. The feeling like I needed to be around people all the time to take a deep breath -- that was loneliness. The feeling of complete anxiety and fear when a boyfriend broke up with me -- that was loneliness. But this? This is peace. This is fun. This is what self-esteem is built of. Here's how I learned to spend time alone.
我意識到也許這聽起來超級蠢。你很可能會(huì)想，我肯定十分怪異、非常寂寞。有趣的是，我在開始獨(dú)自生活前是更加孤單的。那種就像我需要一直跟別人待在一起才能做深呼吸的感覺，是孤單。男朋友跟我分手，那種極為焦慮恐慌的感受，是寂寞。但現(xiàn)在這種場景呢？這是平靜，是趣味，是構(gòu)建自信心的基礎(chǔ)。以下是我學(xué)會(huì)獨(dú)處的方法。
